82 long days

After our last snippet of information was received from USCIS on June 25th, we have heard nothing positive. We received a letter to say we didn’t file the medical records so we must take that to the interview when we receive a date…well that would be all good and well if we would be receiving our interview date any time soon! It’s been 82 days exactly since USCIS received our latest request for evidence. Yes, I counted. After 60 days of hearing nothing you are allowed to call and ask questions. After 82 days I am growing increasingly frustrated. I have called two or three times in the last couple of weeks and after calling today, I was told “You are still within the normal processing times for this type of case so you must wait now to receive an interview date” Oh how nice it must be to spew out this information to frustrated petitioners at home while you have a job and an income!

It’s becoming incredibly boring checking the mail everyday and staring into an empty box. I feel like I cannot look forward to anything anymore. Family members birthdays, Christmas. I have no money to contribute to anything. Yes of course Adam provides for our family but I want to contribute too! I want to be able to go out and see something desirable for our home and buy it there on the spot because I am working and I have the money to do so! Instead I am just able to dream about the day that I can do that and leave the item on the shelf.

Adam frequently reminds me that this is a journey we embarked on together and one we will face together. As frustrating as it is to sit at home with no money and no car, it warms my heart when he says that because I know he will truly always be by my side. And he is right, this is a journey we decided to start together and we knew what we were getting ourselves into when we filed that paperwork a long five months ago.

My frustrations come from the waiting; the unknown. Will I be able to work by Christmas or will I be waiting until next March? Another one of my unanswered questions that I must wait a possible further 82 days to find a resolution to.

What they don’t tell you

When the prospect of moving to the United States comes about, it seems like such an exciting venture. A lifetime with the person that you’re so crazily in love with; a new life together. You hear all the stories about how people went through the immigration process and it was such an exciting time for them. Well here’s what the love stories don’t tell you.

Immigration proceedings are no fun. They are a lot of money, a lot of time and a hell of a lot of waiting. It’s going through weeks of stress to get together all the relevant paperwork only to send it in and be told that you’re missing documents. It’s checking the mail every day waiting for a letter only to be disappointed once again when it’s empty. Staring into an empty mail box is like staring into the emptiness of your future.

The excitement of getting to be with your husband or wife is such a magical feeling; yet that’s all you seem to hear. You don’t hear the struggles of the spouse that sits at home all day and has to rely on people because their paperwork hasn’t been completed yet. Months of waiting means a crumbling of independence. For those that don’t have a drivers license, it means relying solely on your spouse to drive you around. Or if you’re lucky enough to have family members here too, it’s them having to drive you around as well. There’s the stress of not knowing anyone outside of your family and your spouses friends; the longing for the friendships you had in your home country and the heartbreak that you can’t just pop round for a cup of tea with your best friends back home.

I’m at the point as you may be able to tell, of frustration. I feel like a burden to those around me. I have had to latch on to family to do things for me that I can’t; driving, paying for things. My independence is gone. Yes I’m living with my husband in a new country and it’s oh so exciting. But am I able to contribute and do things without having to ask anyone to help me? No. And God damn I hate it. I want so badly just to drive to Walmart and pick up groceries with my OWN money that I went out and earned for myself. I want a proper life.

I knew this journey would be tough and it would entail a lot of sitting at home and relying on my husband. He does a bloody good job of supporting our little family all my himself, I just long to take that pressure off of him. I’ve been here for six months now and we are four or so months into our immigration proceedings, which seem to be at a standstill. I think that’s where my frustration is coming from at this moment. The last letter that we received was to tell us that I would need to take my medical papers to my interview, which I would receive the date for soon. And that was about a month ago. Since we sent in our very first set of paperwork, everything moved pretty fast and we heard something new every couple of weeks; however now we are left in the dark waiting for an interview date. I feel hopeless and just like a burden because I am unable to do anything other than sit at home and have people run around like blue arsed flies for me when I have things I need to do.

I am grateful for our journey and I try every day to find patience in it; some days I do this better than others. But for right now, I have hit a mental wall. This is not a post to scare anyone. When I started my blog, I decided to be honest with what was happening along our journey so that I could help others also walking the same path. It will be a rewarding experience for sure, but for now it is a very tough one. However, it is not a journey that I am willing to struggle through. We will all have our tough days, but it is waking up the next day and deciding to change our mind set and have a better day.

Back in processing!

As of yesterday, our case is back in processing! It was an anxious two or three weeks for me. Our package was delivered to the National Benefits Center within two days and then…nothing. We didn’t hear a peep; I started to question whether our package had been received by the office or not! But yesterday, in the most patriotic way, as we pulled into the driveway of my aunts house after seeing fireworks for 4th July, I saw that I had a text. Lone behold, it was from USCIS saying that we had an update on our case! I logged into our account online and saw our update! “On June 25th, we received your response to our Request for Evidence”  Finally!! “Our National Benefits Center office will begin working on your case again. We will mail you a decision or notify you if we need something from you.” Boom. There it was.

I kind of feel like now is crunch time. The word “decision” seems so definitive. In reality, I know I still need to have my medical and my interview so it is not as if we will are at the end of the road just yet! It’s exciting to know that we are back in processing but I am nervous that we could be receiving a decision soon! Of course I am having thoughts that “What if they reject our application?” But we have followed all the correct instructions and sent the correct information so there truly is no reason for them to deny our application. If anything, they could accept this and deny us at the interview! However I know I am just thinking outside of the box and I need to stay positive!

Who knows how long it could before we receive a letter or a notice that they need something else from us. Now I go back to checking the mail every single day and dreaming constantly of anything to do with immigration! At this point I am continuing to stay positive and am trying to remember that we are on a long journey and to stay patient with it and with ourselves.

What a week!

Well, we have had lots of exciting news this week! We received our first Notice of Action in the mail on Thursday; exactly one week after we received email and text confirmation. There was one letter for Adam for his petition for me (I-130 – Petition for alien relative) and one for me (I-485 – Adjustment of status). Our first Notice of Action was a receipt for the money we had sent and to confirm that our application had been received and is now officially in processing! In my letter, it stated that I will receive a notice soon with a date and time for my biometrics appointment. Now, this process can take an incredibly long time and people wait weeks, maybe months for letters and appointments. But, fortunately for us, this morning I received my biometrics appointment! Our first Notice of Action was received on Thursday and now two days later we have got my biometrics appointment! I am over the moon that it is moving this quickly. I know this is all just the start and we have one hell of a long road ahead of us but considering this is just the start and I already have my first appointment at a USCIS office in a week and a half, I am thinking we are lucky! At my biometrics appointment they will take my fingerprints and possibly photos if they need them. (I’m hoping they do take a new photo because the passport one I sent in with our application was just AWFUL)

The rest of the process will come a little harder to us as we are not sure whether we will need to send of any extra documents that they may require and in what order things like work authorization and SSN, interviews and finally my green card, will come in. But I am just so excited to be on this journey and to be getting a good head start! After all of our hard work putting our paperwork together and going through the strain of a long distance relationship, it makes me so so incredibly happy to finally be in this process.

It’s funny to look back and think how many times we discussed actually doing this and how it will feel and how long it will all take. It’s just so surreal for me! Like I said, we have a long road ahead of us but it is so encouraging to be at this point already. In a week and a half I will be in Dallas at a USCIS office! How crazy!